tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654784824302368977.post4077398293527109106..comments2023-05-08T18:06:16.837+10:00Comments on The ramblings of an ordinary person: A training guide for the European counsellor- Introduction.matthew schiavellohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13943076990025685221noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654784824302368977.post-71714710631288666012011-11-06T19:38:36.938+11:002011-11-06T19:38:36.938+11:00Is there no opportunity for humour about the items...Is there no opportunity for humour about the items mentioned in my last comment??????????? Crowner has a very dry, cryptic and ambiguos sense of humour.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654784824302368977.post-32873239378788987372011-11-06T17:07:26.518+11:002011-11-06T17:07:26.518+11:00Hello again Anonymous,
It seems I have confused y...Hello again Anonymous, <br />It seems I have confused you, so I apologise. This posting and in fact all of the future ‘how to be a European counsellor’ postings are all very much tongue in cheek (ie meant to be funny). If you look at the tags attached, I have selected ‘humorous’ as well, just to let people know who are not familiar with my sense of humour. <br /><br />On a serious note, I very much value, the humanistic approach, Gestalt, existentialism, Client-centred etc. <br /><br />Thank you for reading!<br /><br />regards<br />matthewmatthew schiavellohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13943076990025685221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654784824302368977.post-14776571327967661842011-11-06T16:56:59.937+11:002011-11-06T16:56:59.937+11:00Sorry to be a bit challenging for you. My apologie...Sorry to be a bit challenging for you. My apologies. How do you get on culturally and professionally with Asian and Middle Eastern (ie non European) clients who speak English and other European languages very well particularly those in your neighbourhood and nearby suburbs? Can you maintain a satisfactory personal focus under these circumstances and if so how?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654784824302368977.post-51607834866897609532011-11-06T13:25:19.156+11:002011-11-06T13:25:19.156+11:00'Anonymous' I do wonder if you are a spy f...'Anonymous' I do wonder if you are a spy from the humanistic camp trying to debunk my ego-centric and self-absorbed (comedic) theory! <br /><br />To make it simplistically clear, the counsellor is the person being paid and the client is the payee. I am going to ignore transference and Hokum about 'relevant advice' as they bring my theory too much into question and in doing so the attention is drawn away from 'me'! No one wants that, least of all I.<br /><br />Tomboybill. A couple of free tips for you on dealing with Europeans:<br /><br />1) Smoke machines work wonders in getting the European's attention. They make everything seem magical. Reading your blog, <br /><br />http://mylifeinscribble.blogspot.com/2011/11/smoke-machines-italian-weddings.html<br /><br />I see that you have not had the pleasure of the smoke machine at a wedding! Anyhoo, Flip the smoke machine on as your start dishing out the brilliant advice and Viola! You have transfixed the allusive European! Don’t over use it and just remember- with great power, comes great responsibility!<br /><br />Second tip is a saying in European families (or maybe just mine) - The person with the loudest voice will be heard. So, if you feel the European is not listening, turn up your volume (ummm I mean talk louder). If the European talks over you, talk louder! And if they talk louder again, then you guessed, talk louder! Oh, and waving your arms about helps as well (I think)! Non-Europeans who witness this in action mistaken this as being an aggressive and loud fight, no, we are just talking!matthew schiavellohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13943076990025685221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654784824302368977.post-82670593411207859802011-11-06T12:27:47.789+11:002011-11-06T12:27:47.789+11:00i wonder if 'european counselling' works o...i wonder if 'european counselling' works on other europeans?...i suspect not, if they themselves have trouble listening...<br /><br />How could you overcome this problem Dr Matteo ?TomboyBillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09486923006014897947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654784824302368977.post-67958680296782615932011-11-06T12:13:59.209+11:002011-11-06T12:13:59.209+11:00brilliant Matthewbrilliant Matthewyevishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16146237718414705218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654784824302368977.post-22523652644537268742011-11-06T12:10:32.422+11:002011-11-06T12:10:32.422+11:00mmmm, not so sure about this. you do need to liste...mmmm, not so sure about this. you do need to listen to understand and gain a perspective. Could there could be an interesting crossover between active listing and wanting to hear your own voice? You have to make sure the advice you are giving is relevant. Could the client be the counsellor???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654784824302368977.post-74490917825464224932011-11-06T11:37:57.826+11:002011-11-06T11:37:57.826+11:00KP, I love the 'life changing' bit and am ...KP, I love the 'life changing' bit and am going to steal...err borrow it. As for the 'I, myself' line, that is mine. Please don't use it again, otherwise you will hear from my solicitor, who is also my second cousin on my mothers side!matthew schiavellohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13943076990025685221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2654784824302368977.post-50201949403213490382011-11-05T18:02:14.231+11:002011-11-05T18:02:14.231+11:00I think you know how whole heartedly I support thi...I think you know how whole heartedly I support this idea. It could be a new school of thought! I, myself (see I can do it too!) have reaped the rewards of European Counselling. Two words. Life. Changing.<br /><br />You should charge extra.KPnoreply@blogger.com