Saturday, January 1, 2011

New Year’s resolutions

New Year’s resolutions, why do we have them? Why do we share what they are with others, because, let’s be honest we rarely fulfill them. How many resolutions did you fulfill from last year? I know personally that I fulfilled zilch, nada, niente, zero!   

I know that my own lists are identical each year. Let’s see, I am always going to:

- lose weight,
-to do more physical activity (walking, yoga, swimming etc),
-Have more self-respect and stop dating losers,
-Have more self-respect and stop dating any man that gives me the slightest attention,
- be more creative (play and write music).

Every friggin’ year this list is written out again, looked at, a personal pledge is made, the list is shared with my friends and then that’s the end of it… well until the next year when it’s all regurgitated.

A few days ago, an elderly Chinese lady I know, pointed at my stomach and said ‘Fat tummy!!’ A week or more before that, I visited my mum and as I entered the room I noticed her eyes zoom down to my expanding waistline, she then masked a sudden look of surprise and stood there staring at it, transfixed by its hugeness for several long drawn out moments. These events tempt me even more to fall into that unfulfilled resolution trap again…but this year, this year the answer is ‘no!’. This year I am keeping my mouth shut and I will just keep on doing what I have been doing all along… and that is to think about all the changes I want to make- including losing the spare tyre around my tummy and then head off for some coffee and cake in celebration of life and the start of a new year (umm... isn't that the reason any of us have coffee and cake??). and cake, why not? Good cake makes us all happy and no resolution means that I won’t have any guilt about not living up to my self-made pledges, or fear that my friends will remind me of my resolutions just before I hoe into some yummy dessert, in which case I then have to pretend that I am grateful that they have reminded me of my resolution and painfully push the yummy dessert aside…. all the while on the inside I am crying my little 'dessert hungry' heart out…no good can come from New Year’s resolutions- .I tell's ya!!

So happy New Year to you and may the year ahead bring you happiness, contentment and lots of cake and yummy desserts! And may you never feel compelled to have a list of New Year's resolutions, feel guilty for not living up to them, or have your dessert stolen away from you from friends that mean well.


  1. hehehe - a Chinese lady told you that you had a fat tummy? that's a sign of prosperity! maybe that was a good thing!

  2. I will trade you my "fat tummy" for yours.

  3. no trades until I see what your 'fat tummy' looks like.. I am not trading with anyone more 'prosperous' than me ;-)

  4. Mine is way more prosperous than yours :)

  5. I don't think resolutions should be and annual thing. Old Chines lady saying, "much better to resolve everything, everyday. Then the path ahead not hidden from view".
    Or in the words of the great sage;
    “In the worlds before Monkey, primal chaos reigned. Heaven sought order, but the phoenix can fly only when it's feathers are grown.Much better to grow feather every day than every year."

  6. Hmmm very good point and any quote from Monkey is gold in my book!!!

    "Tathagata Buddha, the Father Buddha, said, “With our thoughts, we make the world.”"

    Wu Cheng'en - 'Monkey'/'Journey to the West'